Let's talk about fear baby!!

I am afraid of the dark , I am afraid of spiders, I am afraid of diying, I am afraid of expressing myself, I am afraid of who I am and of who I am not. I am afraid of failure, I am afraid of succeeding; I am afraid of violence, war, integrists, poverty... I am afraid of you. but don't want to frighten you. I am afraid of change...

Fear is a word I hear a lot recently, not spelled out loud, but underneath it's there very often guiding our acts and ways of reasoning. So the question is: how do I get rid of those damn fears that are preventing me to act as I would like to, to dare and to live, to reach a specific goal. Mainly to step through and exist, just as I am, just with whom I am?

Once upon a time I thought that I could name and write each of those fear on a little piece of paper, put them in a paper bag and watch them burn out! But...
It did not work, I realize that they were never going to disappear just like that. I had to free myself in another way. So I asked myself: What do I love to do that is not scaring me, that I really enjoy? What do I do when people don't look at me?
Well, I love to dance, I love to play (yep! I am a gamer, PS, PC, you name it) and I love cinema.

Make a movie.
Here is the film going in my head: everytime I am aware of a fear rising, and it is important to aknowledge that you have fears, I invite it to dance with me, waltz, tango, macarena, merengue... depending on my mood,  I am the leader of the dance, eventually step on fear's foot ( I can set the rules I want, I am the direcor!), I look at it and dress it in a ridiculous outfit, so I can smile or even laugh, and yes, feel good about it.

If the fear is bigger, I am Lara Croft, I know that I have to fight a big boss to level up, it is not easy but it will help me to get to the next level and go on enjoying the game, (makes me feel like Morpheus when he is learning how to fight to Neo, actually he is dancing).

I stand in front of this huge  horrible creature (The Cracken was a hard one) and I am strongly grounded, the miracle is that finally, I enjoy the fight, thinking: gonna getcha!!! I enjoy 'the process", I feel my teeth and strengths growing until I beat the horrible thing off, the more I die, the more I want to beat it. I am sure that you get the mindset. Once you have it (that  particular mindset), keep it, feel it, see it, hear it and do whatever you have to do. See yourself in your film, you are an actor AND an observer. That particular fear will fade away for a while, at least for the length of the event you have to step in.
In two words: TAKE CONTROL.

Do it, do it, do it!!
We can all wish for something, but have you noticed that when the moment comes, we find excuses, because fear creates discomfort. Self-doubt is an equivalent to self-sabotage. Question is: are you willing to exchange some short term discomfort to get long-term success? Taking action is the best way to confront your fear, accept it and keep your reached objective in mind once and for all, then forget about the results and throw yourself in the process. You know what? You might succeed and probably will... And if you don't, say to yourself: everything is still all right! Good news is there is no failure, just feedback on how you have to proceed the next time.

By the way, Neo fighting Morpheus is a complete coaching session; I'll come back to it later...

Take the red pill and be "Legendary"

If you believe you 've just swallowed the red pill, Get Johnny B Truant manifesto : How to be Legendary I am into it since a few weeks now and it just rocks. Yes i have the soul of an "evolution warrior" (so have I been told), yes I am punk rock coach and proud to be...

Mr T makes me take action, overcoming my long time inertia syndrom... I decided to dig in my brain and write about it.
Inertia has always been a big thing to overcome, beating procrastination. See you later on that theme.

Qu'est-ce qui est réel?

Fan de cinoche je suis, fan de cinoche je resterai, il m'arrivera souvent sur ce blog, de faire référence à des films, des bouts de dialogue, des images exprimant des émotions mieux que les mots.... Pour commencer fort, l'un de ceux qui m'a le plus accroché, parlé, ému, du point de vue du coach est le petit bijou des frères Washowski "Matrix". Apparemment, je ne suis pas seule dans l'univers, à penser que Morpheus est le meilleur des coachs. Johnny B Truant coach, écrivain et blogueur, le pense aussi... Michael Hall, spécialiste en neuro-sémantique en a fait son cheval de bataille.
Après tout, Morpheus trouve son client (Neo) et l'accompagne tout au long du chemin, lui fait découvrir qui il est, de quel potentiel il dispose et ce qu'il peut en faire... Il accompagne Neo vers sa libération...
Sa façon de procéder me fait penser à l'un des premiers présupposés de la PNL (programmation neuro-linguistique):

"la carte n'est pas le territoire! ou en termes matrixiens: "qu'est-ce qui est réel Neo?"

Chacun d'entre nous a sa propre carte, non pas composée de routes, de fleuves, montagnes, vallées, lacs ou océans... Notre carte à nous, c'est notre éducation, nos valeurs, nos croyances, nos expériences (programmes), les critères sur lesquels nous nous basons  pour prendre nos décisions, faire des choix et avancer dans la vie. Cette carte, tout comme les cartes routières, ne reflètent pas le vrai terrain, on ne voit pas les arbres au bord de la route, le cerf qui la traverse ou les rayons du soleil déchirant majestueusement les nuages...
Notre carte est l'équivalent de notre perception du monde et cette perception peut parfois être faussée par de "mauvaises expériences", par des "croyances" qui nous étouffent ou une éducation trop sévère...
Il y a bien une matrice, mais pas de machines à la mode "Gigerienne" pour la faire fonctionner, pas d'agenda caché provenant d'une élite invisible, juste les parois de notre cerveau (neuro) et la perception que nous avons de notre environnement et des personnes qui nous entourent.
La bonne nouvelle, c'est qu'il y a des points communs entre nos cartes et des outils pour nous permettre de comprendre celles des autres et bien entendu, la nôtre en particulier; mieux se faire comprendre, mieux comprendre les autres.
Comment?
notre façon de nous exprimer en dit long sur notre carte (linguistique) et nous favorisons souvent un sens plutot qu'un autre, visuel, auditif, kinesthésique ou gustatif/olfactif. Je vois ce que tu veux dire, j'entends bien ta requête, je sens exactement où est le problème, je goûte avec délectation les propos de cette personne...

Tant que nous ignorons qui nous sommes et ce pourquoi nous sommes là, nous ressemblons à Thomas Anderson (Neo avant qu'il ne découvre la matrice). Nous vivons dans la matrice fabriquée par notre cerveau depuis que nous sommes nés. Notre cerveau et notre perception sont des propulseurs ou des barrières.
Je vous invite à faire le voyage et découvrir votre propre potentiel mais seulement, et seulement si: vous avez décidé de changer...

Why this blog?

Helping others, enhancing conscience, is the mission I have assigned myself in life... Why? Because it simply thrills me, it's energetic and gives me pleasure, strengths and most of all, it's exciting and fun!
I love to learn, to read, to search and to grow. I would like to share the knowledge I come across with all those who are interested in acquiring it, to exchange ideas and to improve. Shift your beliefs (the ones that are limitating you, not the good ones) and you will see a new world rise in front of your eyes.
Neuro-linguistic-programmation or NLP is a wonderful tool to begin a changing process, or should I say, a great journey.
If we want to see radical changes arise in this society, in our organisation, we need to radically change our way of thinking, by shifting our beliefs, values and environment, surfing the wave that is coming and live a better life in a better world. I intend to regularly post tips, hints or video that could be of help or open new paths...High hope. I am a coach and a master practioner in NLP.

When you want to reach an objective using the NLP tools, you are asked to choose a symbol which represent your final goal, or maybe your quest, mine is the spiral...I love the process that eventually can bring results. I invite you to follow the path on this blog, or to email me if you want to dig deeper.

Changement de Paradigme

Le mot paradigme s'emploie fréquemment dans le sens de Weltanschauung (vision du monde). Par exemple, dans les sciences sociales, le terme est employé pour décrire l'ensemble d'expériences, de croyances et de valeurs qui influencent la façon dont un individu perçoit la réalité et réagit à cette perception. Ce système de représentation lui permet de définir l'environnement, de communiquer à propos de cet environnement, voire d'essayer de le comprendre ou de le prévoir. (Wikipedia)

"We cannot change our politics until we first change our perceptions." Beatrice Bruteau

The term "paradigm shift" has found uses in other contexts than the scientific one, representing the notion of a major change in a certain thought-pattern — a radical change in personal beliefs, complex systems or organizations, replacing the former way of thinking or organizing with a radically different way of thinking or organizing. (Wikipedia)